"You all know the saying which is very true: What you resist persists. And I'm sure many of you have already found that out in your life. And then suddenly when you let go of resistance you let go of an attachment to something: I need this to happen in order to be happy; I don't want what is, I want something else. To be okay with what is, which is the simplicity of this moment, is the beginning of true change." -- Eckhart Tolle
The chasm continues to stretch out before me with no end in sight. I started trying to put him out of my mind, forcefully, commanding myself not to think about him. Just a few hours into this rather frustrating endeavor, I meet with a kindly, well rounded, and intelligent old man who, without knowing what was going on in my life, reads the above quote. It was one of those moments where it feels like there just might be a greater design to life; we often don't get to see that design but when we do everything suddenly feels perfectly balanced.
Does this knowledge all of a sudden make the pain stop? No. Does it give me a tool to deal with it? Absolutely! Will it take a while for me to learn this technique of letting go and standing still for a little while to learn to rebalance myself and eventually get over the heartbreak? Certainly. He's still out there and I do have to see him on a fairly regular basis; but this isn't the end of my journey.
Opposites attract by ~stella-marina
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Now that you've told yourself what you have to do, FOLLOW THROUGH WITH IT. If you're unable to commit yourself to dealing with the matter, you'll keep sliding back into the same vicious cycle and only cause emotional grief for yourself and others.
ReplyDeleteyou seem to have a hard time making your feelings come together...
ReplyDeleteIt's a process, one that is coming along quite well because I've made some adjustments. Let's see how far those take me...
ReplyDeletei heard what happened...
ReplyDeleteWhat happened?
ReplyDeletewell did you want to talk about it here ... i mean i udnerstand if you didnt want people to know
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